Love, Sex and Happily Ever After

By: Amy Rubio
Disney, television and the media put such an unrealistic perception on love. That there is a man, man sees woman, woman falls in love with man, and they live happily ever after. Not only is love restricted to heterosexual people, but "happily ever after" bugs me so much! What happens after "happily ever after?" What are the perceptions on love that are being thrown at us everyday? And what about the concept, "Love at first sight?"

I know I had my own misconceptions about love (no thanks to Disney). However, I never bought into "love at first sight." I am cynical about that at best. It is more about "Lust at first sight." Can love really be born so quickly? To see someone's face in an instance and immediately "know" you love them? I don't buy into that one bit.

I, personally, can not stand it when people throw the word "love" around. I knew someone once that would say, "I love you" after knowing/dating the person only a day. Repeat. A DAY! I could not believe it. Maybe he really felt that way or only said it because he felt that is what the other person wanted to hear. I don't know. But I think the concept of "love at first sight" makes it so love can be seen as a fleeting thing that can come and go instantly. In this day and age, has love become something that you can get and throw away at will? Easily disposable? Is love just some fleeting emotion to be tossed aside when you've no use for it anymore?

Also, for some reason, sex has been sensationalized into representing love. Thanks society. Pressures are placed on everyone in terms of sex and love. You don't truly love someone unless you have sex with them and vice versa. Since when is sex they way to show someone you love them? I know I was pressured into having sex, but what's surprising is most of the pressure came from my three elder sisters and my twin. They thought I was prudish because I was a virgin at the age of 17/18 and that I did not ever want to talk about sex with them or learn about their experiences. I am sorry. Is there a requirement or memo I never heard of that says you have to lose your virginity by this age otherwise you are a prudish, stuck-up bitch?

All I know is that they all lost their virginity around the age of seventeen and not one of them has that guy they gave it to in their life anymore. I did not want that for myself. I did not want a guy to have sex with me only because he was attracted to my body. I wanted someone who cared about me; my mind, my heart, my soul. Not some piece of flesh to get pleasure from. Sex meant and still means more to me than just pleasure or satisfaction.

I was nineteen when I lost my virginity. It was to the man I am currently dating and he gave me his virginity as well. I knew him as a friend for a year and then dated him for six months and within that time period (no sex) I realized that I loved him. It was gradual and slow to come, but when the realization sank in I knew I wanted to grow old with him. We both shared our feelings for each other before sex was even in the picture. Even so, we waited another two moths before we both felt ready for sex. I just don't see why sex is placed at the forefronts of relationships. Our way of saying "I love you" is just being together, enjoying each others' company, and learning about each other. Sex does not define or solidify our love for each other and nor should it have to.

I am the only one out of my sisters that is in a serious relationship where marriage is in the foreseeable future. It saddens me because I am the youngest sister, yet the one most likely to get married first. It would not be so saddening if I knew that my sisters did not want to get married or if they were completely okay with being single. But I know they are looking for love just as I have, yet sex play a large part in their search when it shouldn't. Sex does not equate to someone loving you and I feel that many young women are being sent that damaging message. I honestly can't say why I turned out completely different in this area than all my other sisters but whatever it was, I am thankful for.

Lastly, "happily ever after," is another damaging message sent to young women. It implies that once you do fall in love, everything magically works out perfectly...which is entirely untrue. Relationships are work! It is hard work. Relationships are about learning about who your partner is and learning who to live with each other and make things work. Every relationship has some issues and kinks that need to be addressed. It deals with compromise on both sides, not on just one side. I know my relationship is not perfect, but I also know that we are both willing to take the time to sit down, gather our thoughts, and talk about any issue that may come up. Willingness to listen to each others; view is extremely important in order to come up with an acceptable solution for both of you. No relationship is a "happily ever after." But if you work at it, it can be very fulfilling.

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I Am Not A Pre-Existing Condition!

By: Brook Buesking I was browsing and came across change.org 's posting on the latest drama in the unfolding reforms on the health care bill. Jen Nedeau of change.org's perfect post on the matter:

We've heard about how being a victim of domestic violence, being pregnant or having had a previous c-section can prevent a woman from qualifying for private insurance. Despite how shocking this all is, it becomes really problematic if a public option is not included in the health care reform package when and if it is ever passed.

Today, the National Women's Law Center is trying to raise awareness about these issues and more by announcing a new public awareness campaign called "Being a Woman is Not a Pre-Existing Condition." The goal of the national campaign is to educate women about the disparities they face in health care coverage and rally them to contact their Members of Congress to demand that Congress pass health reform legislation that works for women.

play the video!

The Center also released a new report, Still Nowhere to Turn: Insurance Companies Treat Women Like a Pre-Existing Condition, which provides new data about the inequities that women face in health insurance such as:

• The extent of gender rating, in which insurance companies charge women more than men for the same coverage, worsened since the Center issued its landmark Nowhere to Turn report in 2008; 93% of the best-selling plans in the individual insurance market practice gender rating in 2009 compared to 83% in 2008.

• Gender rating also occurs in the group market; insurance companies in most states are allowed to charge a business more for coverage if it employs women. Some states have protections against this discriminatory practice, but these are typically limited to small groups - such as businesses with 50 employees or less. Moderate-sized and larger businesses are subject to gender rating in all states except Montana.

• The gender gap for younger women has grown significantly in the last year; in 2009, 25-year-old women are charged as much as 84% more than men for individual health plans, compared to as much as 45% in 2008.

• To further examine the arbitrary nature of the current system, NWLC looked at premiums charged 40-year-old female non-smokers versus 40-year-old male smokers. In most states, it often costs more to be a woman than to be a male smoker; more than 60% of best-selling plans charged 40-year-old female non-smokers more than 40-year-old male smokers.

Those who want to join the campaign can visit the website to learn about the issues and upcoming events, share the facts with their own networks via social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter, and post about the issue on their blogs and websites. They also can send a message to their elected officials in Congress to tell them that health care reform must meet the needs of women and their families.

WHAT YOU CAN DO:
Visit the website. Sign the petition.

Additionally, I received a letter from N.O.W. this morning stating that the health care bill presented is working towards eliminating safe and affordable access to abortion services for women nationwide.

NOW Opposes Health Care Bill That Strips Millions of Women of Abortion Access
Says Bill Obliterates Women's Fundamental Right to Choose

Statement of NOW President Terry O'Neill

The House of Representatives has dealt the worst blow to women's fundamental right to self-determination in order to buy a few votes for reform of the profit-driven health insurance industry. We must protect the rights we fought for in Roe v. Wade. We cannot and will not support a health care bill that strips millions of women of their existing access to abortion.

Birth control and abortion are integral aspects of women's health care needs. Health care reform should not be a vehicle to obliterate a woman's fundamental right to choose.

The Stupak Amendment goes far beyond the abusive Hyde Amendment, which has denied federal funding of abortion since 1976. The Stupak Amendment, if incorporated into the final version of health insurance reform legislation, will:

• Prevent women receiving tax subsidies from using their own money to purchase private insurance that covers abortion;
• Prevent women participating in the public health insurance exchange, administered by private insurance companies, from using 100 percent of their own money to purchase private insurance that covers abortion;
• Prevent low-income women from accessing abortion entirely, in many cases.

NOW calls on the Senate to pass a health care bill that respects women's constitutionally protected right to abortion and calls on President Obama to refuse to sign any health care bill that restricts women's access to affordable, quality reproductive health care.

We truly need more gender sensitive minds in Congress, in public policy/legislation, to be our advocates and social 'watchdogs'; thankfully, there are great change makers: read more here. Look out world, I will finally have my Bachelors in hand in about two months....

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The Mind, Love and Beauty and the Beast

By: Elizabeth

I'm listening to Belle from Beauty and the Beast (at Youtube.com) and I couldn't help thinking about Gaston, the hunk who wanted to marry Belle and his plans to marry Belle. Belle is the main character of the story and the most beautiful woman in the village, however, she's rather odd because she likes to read a lot, that and she's the inventor's daughter. Gaston only wanted to marry Belle because she was the most beautiful female in town, thus making her the "best" and since he deserved the "best"- he desired her. Gaston and Belle had nothing in common, Belle also wanted nothing to do with him. Gaston, however, proceeded to ruin Belle's, the Beast's and other's lives for his quest of marrying a beautiful woman he hardly knew.




When I was younger, the story line was too complex for me to understand it's underlying tones. All I saw was a girl who had man falling over her because she was the most beautiful despite the fact that she was the odd one. (yeah, even at a young age I had issues with the way I look) Look at the message writing like this is sending our young girls, that in order to be loved you have to be beautiful YET you should look inside the heart of others if you are going to love them. This them and others I am referring to are men, does this sound like I am over generalizing? Yes, however, it seems that the media has started telling us at a young age that we have to look our best in order to be accepted!

Now that I am older, I see the story as glorifying gender and sex roles for those who are young. I'm beginning to realize why I am so cynical at the concept of love, for the simple fact that it gets thrown around a lot- in movies, television, books, school, jobs, etc.

The way I see it, if I'm going to fall in love- even if it's just once or a billion times- why I can't I do it carefully and with consideration. I don't want to fall in love with a fool because he perceives to have the qualities that I think I am looking for. I want to fall in love because this person definitely has the qualities that I am looking for and even if we don't get married, I want to know that in that moment of time my heart and mind worked in conjunction of each other. I have a habit of giving love to everyone, even those who don't deserve it and I just want, for once, to have someone take that love and hold it dear to them. To feel the same way I do, I don't want to fall in love quickly and surely.... I want it to take time and to be mutual.

Back then, Beauty and the Beast was written when looks was more important than the self- marriage was going to be loveless because people didn't last that long and cared more about their gender duty than their feelings or emotions. If Gaston, Belle, and the Beast where characters put into a story today- and not just based on some folk tale- it would have to deal with angst but one thing that would not be left out is that instant attraction at first glance. The first glance that is mentioned in Twighlight, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, etc where the main characters just know in an instance that the person that they are looking at is going to be a great love in their lives.

This instant attraction is what make people in present time so ready to throw the word love around. They equate that feeling of attraction with "love at first glance" without realizing that everything takes work, relationship and time. I don't get how I'm so skewed with my view on love when most people are so willing to fall in and out of love so quickly and to rush into marriage after less than a year of dating. Age has nothing to do with it, people stay serious monogamers at all ages- it takes the smart and educated people (ie, romantics who realize that love takes work to thrive, not just the cohesiveness that most people believe in) to stay together to make love and (maybe) a marriage work.

Despite its sexist undertones, there is a lesson that I take away from Beauty and the Beast, love is gradual and happens when you know the heart of a person first before weighting the physical attraction. This means that a person can love another, even if they are beautiful and the other is ugly or if the other is ugly and they are beautiful or any variation. As long as they know that this person is someone that they have allowed into their hearts, who has allowed them into theirs and know that this is the person that they want to share love and a life with.

(Although I am a cynic, I do see myself as a romantic)

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Bridezillamania! Oh my!

By: Amy Edler

Recently, I was married to the most wonderful man on the planet. At least in my view. In fact, contrary to feminist belief, I even took his last name!
We planned our wedding in a month and half, with the help of family and friends who donated their time and money. In fact, originally, I didn’t want a wedding simply because of the outrageous hassle that it inevitably becomes. My best friend convinced me that we could make this day whatever we wanted and that there was no standard. One day after I told my mother about the decision, after her fit of outright emotional tearful outbursts we decided to shop for a dress. Apparently, I had been living underneath a rock for my entire life because I was completely blown away by the extravagant and expensive industry that is not the wedding but BRIDAL preparation. We pulled about four dresses off the racks and were told that we couldn’t try them on without a “bridal consultant”. For this we needed to make an appointment. Okay, let me get this straight. I need to make an appointment so that someone can help me into my dress and therefore use it as an opportunity to sell me more accessories. This is crap. Of course, I obliged and “Lauren” helped us by telling me I looked beautiful and selling me a $150 undergarment, $40 shoes and a $50 hairpiece. We also set up an appointment to be measured. Alterations total: $250.
The weeks that followed were full of anxiety and stress coming from mothers and mother-in-laws and the ironic ‘comparative wedding’ of a former friend. We had decided to keep things low-key. The venue was eclectic, artistic, beautiful and full of zen. While we were ironing out the wedding officiator status, others were volunteering their time and effort to help out making centerpieces, photography, flowers, favors, etc. I felt that this could possibly turn out to be an open-minded, feminist wedding.
Until I witnessed the other side. 300+ guests. Catholic ceremony. Passages from the Bible about women serving men. Giant reception. Slideshow. Live band. M.C. Games. Different songs for each dance. Basically, it was the complete opposite of my wedding. On my way home my mind began to shift and the past 5 years of studying societal pressures and understanding their impact on girls, my going to South Africa, my activism…all seemed like a dream. I immediately went to my mother’s house and started asking, “what song during this dance..etc” morphing into the inevitable BRIDEZILLA.
It’s amazing how one night of reality, or what seemed real, could completely cloud my judgment. My involvement in NOW and feminism seemed so far away. I was instantly on a completely different planet. The next day I got acrylic nails, bought $100
worth of Clinique makeup, and bought hydroxycut.

Now before I get people going irate over this let me explain that I’m telling this to you all, and especially young girls, as a cautionary tale.
The next day I literally had an anxiety attack in my car in front of my job and had to have a co-worker take me home. I was taken to my fiance’s job, threw up and passed out in the back of the storage room until he woke me up when the store was closed. It took me about a week to feel sane.
People were taking this wedding, including myself, to proportions that were so elevated it nearly sent me to the hospital. How did this happen to such a dedicated activist you might ask?
SOCIETY HAPPENED. And we are all guilty, be it fast food intake (guilty), watching television (guilty), drinking alcohol/ doing drugs/ smoking cigarettes (guilty of some), procrastinating (super guilty), caring what others think of us (GUILTY). We all succumb to social pressures. This is not a new concept. It happens all over the world. Why do you think the terrorists do what they do? Those pressures are so intense for them that they have no other choice. This is what makes us unique as humans, being conscious of ourselves in a way that influences how we behave. The only instinct we seem to have as 21st century humans is the need to belong to a group. In our feminist circles, we try to project an image of acceptance of all. However, we to are guilty of trying to fit a mold in order to belong. I often find myself trying to be the perfect activist. When in turn, I’ve learned that sharing my experiences as a young woman can make a difference because I know there’s someone reading this that feels the same way.
So how can we as feminists have a wedding without falling prey to the terrorism that is the “bridal industry”? How can we avoid those pressures? Coming from a conservative family, it was very difficult for me. For others, your roots may be strong enough to hold you through the turbulence that is bridal mania. Most women, like myself, were raised by a society that makes us constantly hate ourselves and always strive for perfection. The most important step in planning a feminist wedding is to keep your friends close to you at all times and have them constantly remind you of WHO YOU ARE. It is so easy to get lost. A bride (and groom for that matter) is not supposed to be morphed into someone they’re not. You’re not dressing up for Halloween. You still should be yourself and a wedding is to celebrate the union of two people with family and friends.
I learned several lessons from this experience. Feminism supports a woman’s right to choose whatever she wants from her life. In concept, it does not judge a woman for decisions that she makes about herself and her wedding. It is important to have friends that understand your vision of the wedding and make sure people involved know that it is YOU and YOUR HUSBAND’S DAY, not theirs. A wedding day is equally shared with husband and wife. It’s not just the bride’s day. That’s a load of crap. Make sure people are there that mean the most to you all. Just because someone is blood-related to you, doesn’t make that an automatic invitation. And the most important lesson of all that a good friend of mine said to me, “people are there to see YOU, not someone else. Be yourself because that’s why they are there.” So let’s all sit back and think before you plan a wedding, am I doing this for me or other people? If the answer is the latter, than maybe you need to go to the courthouse.
All in all, it turned out perfect due to the love that was there to support us

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Huffington Post Gets A Zero

By: Brook Buesking My partner is a news hound. Every time I turn around, he's on a different news web site, absorbing all he can about the latest in national headlines. He visits all the goodies: BBC, The Nation, PHEM! ;-) But he most recently has been checking in on Huffington Post. So I skipped on over, checked it out, read some of the latest articles, then came across this:

"Who Has the Best Chest in Hollywood" (photos and poll 9/26/09) Readers rate the women's breasts on scale from 1 to 10; 1 being 'gross' and 10 being 'gorgeous'. I know a little something about Arianna Huffington, and frankly, was just disappointed.

It's a shame when you come across a probably well meaning site that mixes absolutely thoughtless opinion with otherwise thoughtful news and commentary. Arriana has lost my interest...and it's a shame, too--especially when just this year she was rated number 12 on Forbes' first ever list on the Most Influential Women in Media. I felt as if I had been taken into the mind of an adolescent boy, vicariously viewing his juvenile score chart tucked under his bed: Lisa from fourth bell: breasts:2 //score=ew. Monica from 1st bell: breasts: 8 //score= awesome.

Don't worry! Huffington Post is an equal opportunity offender! Gals, have your fun at telling those frumpy or fabulous men to either 'cover it up' or that they are simply 'gorgeous'. Give me a break. This is not exactly how I want to be influenced. I expected better! And so I wrote to them.

Feel free to share your thoughts with them, too: Write to Huffington Post.

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Women, Femininity and the Military

By: GI Jane Doe

What is femininty?

If the mass media is to be believed, it's meek, mild, petite, sweet, domestic, motherly, and passive. Yet, the media also presents ideal women as feisty, witty, and strong women who have their own jobs and careers and no children. Fashion models are rarely shorter than 5'8.

Not at all confusing.

There is one limitation that is absolute, and it touches my life intimately: military service. I have long hair and a love of cooking, kittens, butterflies, and cute boys, but my soldier's uniform makes me unfeminine--or, as my roommate once put it, a "dyke". And it's a heavy judgement. One day I was a sweet and friendly college coed, and the next I was an aggressive iron-pumping Amazon.

What is it about military women that bothers wide society so much? The New York Times regularly prints articles about female service members. The authors try for positive and supporting, but they take great pains (especially in articles discussing the possibility of women in combat) to describe how "manly" these women are. Femininity and the military are incompatible, it seems. But why? What is so unfeminine about the military?

Is it the rigorous exercise? If so, that's a pathetic reason; I'm in the best shape of my life, and good women are supposed to be in good shape. Is it the idea of women in warfare that scares people? Society is going to have to wake up one day and realize that women (and girls) are just as able to wage war as men.

I think it's about aggression. Society raises women to NOT be aggressive or dominant in any way. It starts from birth--studies have proven that baby girls are shushed when they are loud more than their male counterparts. Girls are given domestic toys like Barbie, toy ovens, and dress-up clothes. Boys are given toys like trucks, toy guns, and action figures. Complete strangers tell women to smile when they pass each other on the street.

You bet I was raised to be polite and passive. I have trouble saying "no" to people. When someone requests something completely outrageous from myself, I automatically spin my reply into something soft-edged like, "I'm so sorry, but..." I do not share negative feelings well. I hesitate to push my way through a crowd. My sister has confided to me similar feelings, but my two brothers have no such compunctions.

The military, by necessity, requires a certain amount of aggression and dominance. It's a volunteer armed force, so you can imagine that the people who join are ready and willing to fight. This is not a bad thing. Society's refusal to let women and girls demonstrate mental, physical, and emotional strength is.

When you see a female service member, don't assume that she's any different from you. A vow of service, and dedication to that vow, is the only thing that marks military personnel different from civilians. How is a pledge to serve your country unfeminine?

It's not.


picture credit: washington post.com

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Love Your Body: A Thin Rant

October 21st marked this years annual "Love Your Body" day celebration. Love Your Body, from NOW foundation, that emphasizes an increase in more diverse and genuine representations of women in the media. In honor of this, I would like to introduce you all to a piece done by newcomer Amy Rubio entitled "Thin Rant".

My Thin Rant

What is Beauty?

Who gets to say?

Why is skinny “better” than being fat?

I don’t know what beauty is!

I don’t choose what beauty is!

I don’t see why skinny is “better” than fat!

Just because I am tiny people tell me they hate me.

They tell me they wish they had my “problem.”

They tell me I am lucky!

Lucky.

So I am lucky to be 30 pounds underweight.

Lucky to have to worry about being sent to the hospital

And get force-fed through a tube.

I am lucky to have people tell me to shop in the juniors section

Where I can get pants with butterflies and glitter! Yay!

Lucky to know the feeling of my pants falling off my non-existent butt.

I am lucky to be a size DOUBLE ZERO in pants.

Lucky to technically not exist. Twice!

Lucky that I don’t have to constantly weigh myself.

I don’t weigh myself!??

I had to get weighed in once a week all of freshman year

So that my mom didn’t have to worry about me wasting away!

Just because I am skinny it does not mean I am healthy!

It does not mean I get to eat whatever I want.

Being skinny doesn’t make me immune to diabetes or cholesterol.

My own doctor called me anorexic to my face.

Without even glancing at my medical history.

I don’t eat salads in public anymore for fear of people thinking that.

And I like salads…….

I hate all the dieting commercials!

If I tried to lose weight I would lose my life!

There are no commercials for women like me.

Women who need a diet that helps to gain weight.

I am just as self-conscious about my body as the next girl.

I hate my legs! They are twigs!

I have as much curve as a washboard!

I look like I belong strapped up to tubes in a hospital!

I know this.

So please, don’t say you hate me.

Don’t tell me I am lucky.

But most of all, don’t wish you had my problem.

It’s the problem you have, just at a different end of the same spectrum.

I have body image issues just like every other girl.

I am not perfect. I am not model material.

I have health concerns and trouble with clothes fitting.

Above all, I was born this way.

Just as anyone else was born the way they are.

I did not choose to be this way. I just am.

Don’t blame me for my genetics.

Don’t try to make me feel bad for being skinny.

Take a long hard look at society and the media.

That is was needs to be changed.

Not me.

Not you.

Amy is a fourth year Women's Studies major at ODU who, while not writing about such pivotal issues, loves to be in nature, to scuba dive, and to take pictures. Her inspiration behind writing this piece came from some encouragement from her mother and because she felt that the dialogue surrounding underweight women has been largely absent. She says ' the majority of people focus on being overweight and the issues that go along with that...so I felt it was important to let people know what it is like to be underweight and that thinness is not the light at the end of the tunnel.'

We look forward to hearing more from you, Amy!

All art is from this years winners of the love your body poster contest.

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Headlines, News and a Phemiversary

Well, it's been a crazy month! Where to even begin. I guess I'll start with why I was reminded this morning why I never get on MySpace anymore: Hotties For Sale . In this same vein, Pink is still rocking my world, however, apparently her video Dear Mr. President, an open critique of George W. Bush's policies while in office, and "not available for viewing in your country" is not being rocked on Myspace.

On a better note, fellow Pheminist Amy just got married! Congrats to Amy! We all are wishing you two much love, adventure, growth and light together. Another exciting celebration in progress, October marks the one year anniversary of Phem! Within that time frame, a lot of exciting things have happened....Phem began small, but quickly gained momentum in the ever supportive realm of ODU's Women's Studies program. Over the past year, we have gained twenty four online members, of those, twelve becoming regular contributors to the blog. Phem then gained a good amount of student support thanks to Dr. Jennifer Fish's shout out at the Friends of Women's Studies Dinner in March, and again during the Annual Women's Studies Essay Contest in May. In June, Phem was also awarded a $1,000 grant from the ODU Honors College from Dean Metzger with the help of Dr.'s Buchanan and Fish, where it was applied to the production of a 56pagemagazine featuring art, essays, commentary, poetry, and student experiences abroad in South Africa. I've been wondering where to take Phem to next. Any ideas?

My last bit of updates includes a rather disturbing piece that I've been so shocked by that I haven't been able to comment on it for quite some time. I realize every culture has its different norms and values, but I was certain that sexual violence is never something to culturally accept, until I came across Rape Lay. This video game simulates the stalking, sexual harassment and abuse and rape and gang rape of a the female members of a particular family. From there, we continue to forced abortions and From Equality Now's post on this issue:

The aim of the RapeLay game is for the player to repeatedly rape the mother and her daughters until they begin to “enjoy” the experience. After on-screen raping of the mother and her two daughters, the player has more control over rape scenarios and must “rape-train” the woman and girls by subjecting them to multiple and varied sexual assaults, including gang rapes, until they succumb to each assault and even beg their rapist to indulge them. As the rapes continue the chances of the woman and girls becoming pregnant increases. The player must, however, force the woman and girls to get abortions otherwise one of the girls will stab him to death, again in a manner that sexualizes violence. Illusion Software has also issued a free download that includes depiction of the woman and girls in a cell being subjected to sexual torture, as well as a scene of a particularly brutal rape of the elder daughter with the mother and younger daughter being forcibly restrained and made to watch. This assault disturbingly mirrors the real-life situation in Tokyo where, in 2005, the local government was forced to introduce women-only carriages after a survey found that 64% of women in their 20s and 30s had been molested on public transport. Most respondents said they had been groped several times over the previous 12-month period.

Thankfully, Amazon has banned all sales of the video game and other companies are following suit. Sigh... Thoughts on any of this from my fellow Pheminists?

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