Racing for the Cure!

Team Phem will be racing for the cure October 16 and has a goal of reaching 1000! Join or donate to our team HERE. Read the full story HERE.

A Much Needed Comedic Break

I have been missing Sarah Haskins so much! But since she introduced me to "Modern Lady" on infomania, I've been getting my comedic fix. Check out her page and all her witty videos HERE.

Thursday, April 30, 2009

Operation Cover-Up


By: Amy

In fifth grade, I filled out a piece of paper for a dollar. It read:
To Brittany Love Amy
On the front was a generic smiley face that I happily filled in with crayon and colored pencil. Every morning the smile-grams would arrive and be passed out. Did I get one today? Was someone thinking of me?

Ironically, this feeling of ‘worthiness’ is applied to the core of this organization, by which standards of appearance are praised over performance. By which photo-ops are valued over opportunities for social change. An organization that thrives on: “Mobilizing a world of generous hearts to heal children’s smiles and transform lives across the globe.”


The fact that a multi-million dollar non-profit organization prides itself on aesthetically transforming deformed faces in Third World countries is problematic in many ways. However, the pros outweigh the cons, which is why many, well, ALL people put this particular organization on a global pedestal. The social implications of children being ridiculed for facial deformities are important in determining the actual nature of this NGO’s work. Why else would they spend this much time and money on correcting facial and bodily abnormalities… if they didn’t care about the social stigma associated with the child?


As a sociologist, I examine cultural factors such as societal norms and customs, socio-economic levels, educational opportunity, and my specific field of study—gender roles. All of the above and more are instrumental in the foundation and development of a human being. No matter who one may be, where they are from, or what economic level they find themselves, everyone is subject to mainstream ideals and pressures that determine how we live our lives, raise our children, and conduct relationships with others. This being said, I ask you all to read the following statement: “Sociologists just like to pick apart things, and create problems that aren’t really there. Especially when it comes to women’s studies.” --An unidentified person at Operation Smile.

Now I ask you, what exactly is this advertisement implying? It is implying a societal deviance called bullying… because of how someone looks. With your donation, this young girl can stop being picked on, heck, with your monetary contribution, she may be pretty enough to be sold into marriage at age 9! Better yet, maybe now her parents can sell her to that nice man that says he is going to take her to a fine school, then she will be trapped in a sex trade, being shipped from Cambodia to China or Vietnam or somewhere in Europe, heck, maybe she will stay in her native country and work the streets until she gets AIDS from an American businessman who sleeps with young girls for less than a dollar only to go back to the States with a clear conscious because THERE ARE NO PROBLEMS I’M JUST PICKING THINGS APART AND CREATING A PACK OF LIES.


When I began my internship at Operation Smile in January, I was so excited! My advisor and I brainstormed ways for me to somehow go abroad on a mission. This would add credibility to my resume when applying to grad schools and NGO jobs. When I told people that I was interning at Operation Smile, everyone was happy for me, what a great opportunity! I remembered the smile grams from elementary school, and the OpSmile club in high school. I was pretty sure ODU had one as well, but I always wondered, dealing with such a traumatic and serious aspect of life: deformities and abnormalities in poverty-stricken third world countries, I thought, how does this organization sugar-coat such a gruesome and tragic reality so that it’s suitable for children?—and most American adults for that matter.


It’s no surprise that the American media doesn’t tell us the whole truth when it comes to international issues. Just flip on Telemundo and watch the Noticias. But that’s beside the point. Americans are so complacent with a rose-colored-glasses-view, that it has infiltrated into the mindset of the organizations that are supposed to be helping others. In order to give assistance, one must understand the problem. Putting oil in your car when it keeps running out doesn’t solve the problem. It’s still going to keep running out. Unless you find out why, it’ll just keep happening. In this case, you would look under the hood and scientifically determine the cause of the leak, instead of coming back again and again and pouring more oil… your wallet would soon grow much lighter and spare time shorter.

We should apply this model to every problem in life. However, here is the fundamental difference between my example and an Operation Smile patient: one is a machine with mechanical gears and the answers to its problems are found in a manual, the other—is a person. Though we would like to think that our problems as human beings could be solved with a visit from the doctor, the answers are never black and white. Charts and numbers can only say so much. And that’s very difficult for some people to hear.


So difficult that they will do anything… I mean anything… to make sure they don’t have to hear it.


After a couple of weeks into it, I began to get an uncomfortable feeling walking through warehouse turned office building. As funny as it sounds, I felt like gym class in 10th grade when all the cheerleaders gossiped in the locker room and I was in the corner trying to be invisible. I thought, “geez Amy, come on, you’re 22 years old, stop acting like this and grow up”. I was told I could wear my I-pod because data-input was so boring. But, perhaps it’s the aspiring journalist in me, I chose to ease-drop on my neighbors in the cubicle behind me. As Operation Smile’s idea of an internship was to put me in front of a computer and make me input medical charts, I figured I should utilize any opportunity to learn and soak up information about the organization. All I got was conversations about weight-loss and facebook. Wait a minute; aren’t these people supposed to be interested in the welfare of the children their organization is helping? Why aren’t they talking about research they did on the GDP of Kenya or mortality rate of rural China? Wait a minute, why are there two gigantic big screen televisions the size of my living room on the wall playing CNN if no one is watching them?


After I increasingly began to feel uncomfortable around these people, I found myself questioning the actions and intentions of those working there. I began to talk to others outside of the organization that were familiar with it. From all of them I got this response, “Ooooh yeahhh Operation Smile didn’t except your proposal of a gender analysis of India…not surprising.” Not surprising? A former Operation Smile employee told me of a woman who was fired for being too old. She was filing suit when suddenly… the issue disappeared.


Three sources have confirmed that Kathy Magee and her husband, founders of Operation Smile, are close, personal friends with the McCains and Palins. In fact, they sat in the front row at the McCain rally in Hampton Roads. There’s nothing wrong being politically affiliated with whomever you choose, however, things became to be increasingly clear to me when I walked into the office one day and couldn’t find one African American. Was this a non-profit organization, or the Republican National Convention? Find the token black guy!

Then I came across a story brought to my attention that involved another cover-up but this time it happened to be a child’s life. 9-month-old babies Tendral, from Nepal, drown in the bathtub after receiving a cleft palette surgery from Operation Smile. She was recovering in Miami with some friends of the Magee’s. The manslaughter and child neglect charges against the caretaker have been mysteriously dropped, according to the Miami Herald.

What have I learned from my internship? I have learned that just because an organization is called a non-profit, doesn’t mean its golden. There is corruption in all aspects of society, even those that seem perfect. And sometimes, a smile isn’t genuine. Sometimes it’s hiding something. What’s hidden is the truth that problems in the Global South are caused by destructive cultural norms that exploit children, in particular young girls. The truth is that many Americans fund and participate in imperialistic “missions” that “save” children of developing countries by fixing their facial deformities so we can go home and sleep better at night. We can plop right down in these people’s worlds and cut around on their children’s faces and mold them into a more perfect looking human being. Plastic surgeons are then not only idolized in our own cultures by making breasts rounder and fuller and noses smaller and tummies flatter but now—NOW these “miracle workers” can go to fix these children’s cleft lips and drop them right back into the grotesque cycle of poverty that caused the malnutrition that caused the cleft in the first place. It’s wonderful that these children aren’t ridiculed, but it’s very typically American to superficially fix something ignoring the root problem.

When someone like me comes along and proposes to research cases in India, analyzing the gender of the child, if their surgery was completed, what region they came from, how far they traveled, the gender of the parent occupying the child, etc. in order to determine if there is any sort of unknown gender bias in the treatment and outreach of the program, I am told:


“We have very good relations with India and we don’t want anything published that will tarnish our image.”


Funny, you all seem to say that a lot.
ALL SMILES!


Jessica Simpson: “I believe in this charity and that’s why I’m here” (People Magazine)


MSNBC story U.S. Dept. of Justice World Vision This is not an article to discuss child sex trafficking, but if you would like to know more about it, above are a couple of links that may be helpful.
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Friday, April 24, 2009

Why women are leaving men for other women?!?

By: Teri

CNN reprinted an article originally featured on Oprah.com http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/23/o.women.leave.menfor.women/index.html

(The use of queer in this post refers to all gender identities outside of the heterosexual context whether gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, gender fluid, polysexual, pansexual and other relationships covered under the LGBTQ alphabet soup)

What was bothersome to me about this article starts at the beginning. First, it presents a "new sisterly love in the air". After introducing "formerly straight" celebrities turned lesbian as a frame of reference, the writer focuses on "women having sex with other women".

A frequent erroneous perspective towards the queer community is the focus on sex. Queer relationships are more than what happens in the bedroom (or kitchen or living room). It show a fundamental lack of acceptance when there is diversion from the commonalities between hetero & queer relationships. They both have sexual relations that may happen in the context of a fling, but that is different from relationships - sex being a fraction of the overall interaction between people in relationships.

The writer points out that it is hard to obtain statistics since the U.S. Census bureau only tracks single, married, or divorced households. They do not (as the writer presents) keep track of same-sex households. This becomes another aspect of the perspective that queerness belongs in second class status because of the lack of federal recognition. (For more exposure in how that affects the queer community, ask a queer person how the lack of federal recognition affects their lives)

Scientific perspectives brought a sense of legitimacy to the article; feminist and gender scholars offer their statement on scientific evidence towards "sexual fluidity" or genetic evidence of queerness. What is missing from the presentation of scientific evidence are the biases and skews that occur in studies. Why is the statement "fluidity represents a capacity to respond erotically in unexpected ways due to particular situations or relationships. It doesn't appear to be something a woman can control" more prevalent in women than in men - according to Bonnie Zylbergold, assistant editor of American Sexuality, an online magazine. There is a skew in sexuality studies when there isn't acknowledgment that the social construct of men is rigid in heterosexual identification. From touching each other in a friendly manner to any mention of anal; heterosexual men are schooled to defend their masculinity if any of the aforementioned topics are breeched. Perhaps that is the reason the studies show women are more fluid in their sexual responses. Lesbian imagery is widely accepted as erotic while gay male imagery is not.

The statement "it doesn't appear to be something a woman can control" reiterates the common notion that the female gender is a slave to her emotions (irrational, bitchy, hysterical..all the fantastic adjectives associated with women). Is this just "another thing" that is out of the control of women, hence they should not be equal to men?

The closing of the article recognizes the traits often admired in a relationship does surpass gender. The writer chooses to, once again, contradict statements by ending with "the thrill may override whatever heterosexual orientation they had". The thrill must be out of the control of women which can explain why one would go out of the "norm" of heterosexuality (insert sarcasm).

Embracing all sexual identities begins by changing the origin that heterosexuality is the norm in which to base all other ideologies and identities from. This parallels the notion that male is the norm in which to base all gender behavior. Male = good, righteous, strong, protector....Female = emotional, soft, in need of protection. When will be get beyond these rigid thought patterns and open our lens to the reality that humanity in its differences does not have to be presented in a good/bad binary?

I truly appreciate Cynthia Nixon's statement that the person she fell in love with happens to be a female. Megan Mullally also made this statement when she got married in 2003. With all the strife, bad news, and general negativity in modern day society,can't love just be a good emotion regardless of gender?
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Daniel Hersh Memorial Ride

Daniel Hersh, 54, was struck by a Ford Explorer Sunday morning on Shore Drive and died later at 9 am. No charges have been filed with the woman driving the car. Please come out and show your support. You don't have to be an avid cyclist. There will be B and C paces available.
Wes will be setting up a ghost bike in the spot where he was struck.
Cyclists please try to wear black or white.
Click on image to view the full flyer.
8:00am - 11:00am
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Conte's Bikes
Laskin Road, Virginia Beach



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Thursday, April 23, 2009

Hair it is!?

By: Teri
For the record, I shave. Occasionally, I find liberation in not having to fight the Schick fight everyday – I have better things to do. Why is it so offensive if women do not shave? I came across this video clip…so many emotions/reactions… what is the offense of body hair? As a western construct, it is embedded in our psyche that women should not have body hair. If you see the other video, you will see the message that “if we don’t shave, chaos will ensue”. What is truly fearful of body hair?






[ it is also on feministing.com HERE ]

Case in point – a few years back I attended a concert. Standing in the bathroom line, the woman in front was going on a tirade about the opening singer’s armpit hair. “OH MY GAWD…I can’t believe she doesn’t shave. I mean, really!! We are in AMERICA”. Is it in the Declaration of Independence that thouset must shavest?

Does it make us less feminine if we sprout hair? Do we have to turn in our Chick Card if our legs/armpit/yonis are not follicle free? Alix Olson eloquently speaks of this in Armpit Hair though this is only part of the whole song.

This is only a fraction of the dictates that women are subject to, all aspects of their life under a microscope…so one atom at a time we shall deconstruct these rigid ideologies. Ask yourself…if you are walking down the street, what would your reaction be if the female coming towards you proudly wears a tank and shorts shave free.


[armpit hair]
(mammally factual)
©2001 Alix Olson.

There were no seats on the subway so I had to grab a strap
As I lifted up my arm I heard a scream "what’s that?"
I took a look around: I thought "there must be something scary".
Like a lion or a tiger or the Virgin Mary?
But then, I noticed they were looking at me.
......
I heard "oh my gawd! They’re hairy!" Well, I hear that the Senate is planning a convention
to pass an amendment on body hair prevention. I’m planning on attending,
I’ll be sitting in the front row. I’ll have chains on my pits screaming
"Hell no, it won’t go!"
.....
They say, "cut your clits and shave your pits, and cover your tits!"
We say- bullshit. Cause I use my curls to be at one with the world
like when I’m out camping. And I lay myself to rest
I sleep with my arms up so the birdies can nest.
So stop and reconsider just what they consider natural
Cause armpit hair is simply
Mammally Factual.
Full Lyrics HERE
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Sunday, April 12, 2009

Sibahle: South African Handmade Goods On Sale

By: Brook Buesking

Back in November I brought to you Shamika Lawrence's organization that promotes conscious consumerism through a sustainable income generation project called Sibahle. Shamika's ongoing dedication to the project has brought much exposure and support to her cause at G.A.P.A.


The next event that will bring these crafts, jewlery, knitted and other handmade goods will be May 2nd, 2009. The event will be housed at the Norfolk YWCA on Colley Avenue from 10am-2pm. that will feature handmade South African crafts.

Join us in promoting conscious consumerism and supporting Shamika's ongoing advocacy for G.A.P.A.

For more info on G.A.P.A. visit: http://www.gapa.org.za/

Below is the original story with interview:

Phem talks with Shamika Lawrence about feminism, advocacy and how her organization Sibahle is helping to promote conscious consumerism. Click HERE for full article!



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Friday, April 10, 2009

More Feminist Perspectives on Afghanistan "Rape Law"

by: Heather

I noticed the “Afghanistan rape law” picking up a lot of press here in the U.S. Feminist blogs like Feministing are speaking out on it, and here at Phem, Teri covered it wonderfully in her April 8 post, below. On CNN.com, the law is publicized as a law that would legitimate the rape of a wife. But 437 words into the 895-word article, the piece digresses into a long history of the sensationalized burqa and personal story of the humiliation of wearing it; no similar personal stories associated with marital rape are given.

At Think Progress, the law is more specifically explains “‘As long as the husband is not traveling, he has the right to have sexual intercourse with his wife every fourth night,’ Article 132 of the law says. ‘Unless the wife is ill or has any kind of illness that intercourse could aggravate, the wife is bound to give a positive response to the sexual desires of her husband.’” In the transcript of a question directed to Obama, the president replies: “[W]e think that it is very important for us to be sensitive to local culture, but we also think that there are certain basic principles that all nations should uphold, and respect for women and respect for their freedom and integrity is an important principle.”

On Feministing, blogger “idiolect” impresses on us that marital rape is NOT only an Afghan problem, asking, “are we so smugly confident that our own country is "civilized" enough that marital rape is something shocking and foreign?” In fact, s/he writes, “Until 1976, marital rape was legal in every state in the United States. Although marital rape is now a crime in all 50 states in the U.S., some states still don't consider it as serious as other forms of rape.”

Another perspective comes from The Independent, an opinion that I find the most interesting. In the article, Nelofer Pazira, an Afghan-Canadian journalist and film-maker, shoots back against the way the media treats the story in a way similar to Feministing. The article describes the passage of legislature and government mandates are a distant idea to victims of domestic and sexual violence in Afghan homes isolated from the courtroom physically, culturally, and even economically. When asked for her opinion, Pazira points to Western hysteria about sharia and Islam rather than the language of the law itself. She explains:

Even in its conservative interpretation, Islam recognises women's rights to land ownership. It insists on the "consent" of both sexes when entering a marriage contract or sexual relations. What is branded as "sharia" for Shias in the legislature is basically giving Afghan men the right to control their wives, which is already practised widely.

While Hamid Karzai's government may call for the review of the law the attitude of Afghan men won't change with the re-wording of a legal document through external pressures, especially from the West.

I am intrigued by Pazira’s take, but I am not in total agreement. She states that “there hasn't been a single protest in the West about these crimes which are affecting the lives of women every day – not a single expression of support for these victims who, of course, don't make it into the headlines; because we are too busy looking for ‘local outrage’ in order to condemn the Afghan government.” This kind of rhetoric trivializes the efforts and empathy that come from humanitarians and feminists who genuinely want to make a difference. Again, even Pazira is dubious about the results Western pressure could have on the Afghan law-making process, anyway.

I think that the tone of “idiolect” and Pazira (Pazira asks Western feminists to “spare me the hysteria”) in their opinion pieces tells Western feminists, “Hold on—you are being self-righteous and ethnocentric. You aren’t fooling anybody! Find your own cross to take up!” Feminists like Teri are busy looking for ways of positive action, but others would rather harp on the negative rhetorical situation; especially CNN, who returns (again, like so many) to oversimplified visual representations of Afghan women that cry “barbarian.”

This is so interesting in terms of where we as feminists feel we can go with our voices. Who can we speak for? Who can/not speak for themselves? What kind of speech is acceptable? Welcomed? Off-limits? Whose voices are perceived as interchangeable (in Pazira's case, the voice of American media and American feminists)? Is Pazira standing in for all Afghan women? Does she lose any of her credibility as a spokesperson for Afghan women, as an expatriate?
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Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Afghanistan 'Rape' Law Puts Women's Rights Front and Center

By: Teri
The Afghan government took a step in recognizing the need for governing Islamic law for the minority Shia community. Separate from the majority Sunni community, the bill passed in the Afghan parliament gave individual identity to the Shias. Within this bill were languages that stripped the Shia women of many fundamental rights. This controversial portion of the bill has global leaders expressing their objection.

Key elements of this bill remove crucial right for Shia women such as leaving the house without permission from a male relative or “allowing a man to have sexual intercourse with his wide even if she says NO”. An Afghan female in the parliament (which is only has a 1/3 representation of women) admits that most parliament members were unknowledgeable about the bill they passed. The Afghan females are worried of the return to the Sunni fundamentalist government under the Taliban whose rules were strictly enforced.

A strictly feminist gender theory highlights the detrimental effects that this bill will have on the Afghan women. The usage of sex for power has always been a tool of war. Allowing this same behavior in a domestic situation leaves women powerless in the private sphere. Dictating what behavior is allowed by a woman removes fundamental human rights and disallows autonomy by the Afghan women. This misogynistic structure subjugates the Afghan women to a variety of personal violations without governmental protection.

The bill in parliament has rightfully drawn the ire of global leaders. Both the governments of the United States and Germany have expressed deep concern. Human rights groups and other NGOs have condemned this law. On the global level, reaction of other governments has prompted response from the Afghan president in declaring journalist misunderstanding in the exposure of the Shia bill. However, he did state that the Minister of Justice will study the law “line by line” to follow the Afghanistan constitution of equal rights for both sexes. Continued pressure needs to be exercised on the global level to ensure the rights of women are equalized.

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Obama Announces the White House Council on Women and Girls

Obama:
"I want to be clear that issues like equal pay, family leave, child care and others are not just women’s issues, they are family issues and economic issues. Our progress in these areas is an important measure of whether we are truly fulfilling the promise of our democracy for all our people."


During its first year, the Council will also focus on the following areas:

  • Improving women’s economic security by ensuring that each of the agencies is working to directly improve the economic status of women.
  • Working with each agency to ensure that the administration evaluates and develops policies that establish a balance between work and family.
  • Working hand-in-hand with the Vice President, the Justice Department’s Office of Violence Against Women and other government officials to find new ways to prevent violence against women, at home and abroad.
  • Finally, the critical work of the Council will be to help build healthy families and improve women’s health care.


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Saturday, April 4, 2009

When Biking Is A Crime

By: Amy

Please take a moment and read the following article, which brings light to a serious issue that we all should be concerned about. Not only do we target low-income neighborhoods for crime but now law enforcement is taking away the only safe transportation many people have. This issue should be brought to the attention of city officials in that it is blatant discrimination. It makes me sick to my stomach to think about the jerks that are taking these bikes.

When Biking Is A Crime
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Friday, April 3, 2009

Dress Turns Sexual Identity Inside Out

By: Heather

On Tuesday, BestWeekEver.com discovered a prom dress for sale on LightintheBox.com’s website, billed as the “Spring 2009 Column Sweetheart Asymmetrical Satin Prom/Evening Dress.” This gorgeous hundred-dollar gown has one eye-catching and original feature--what appears to be a vagina spread across the model’s lap. It is so weird that LightintheBox pictures this dress and doesn’t mention that the designer constructed a vagina onto this gown.


I can see how many people might interpret this dress as inappropriate. I don’t think that the dress merits the following remarks it got from BestWeekEver’s lady reporter Michelle Collins in her article “The Dirtiest Prom Dress You’ll Ever See”: “Because nothing says ‘I want to lose my virginity again’ like giant hot pink satin labia hangin’ off the front of your dress. Am I right, fellas?”

And, apparently, response from the dress drove LightintheBox to CENSURE THE DRESS, eliciting this reply from Collins: “LightintheBox has swapped out the above photo for a picture of the dress with another photo, labia clearly photoshopped out. Looks like they couldn’t handle the vaginal heat!” Classy, Michelle. But… even if you alter the image of the dress, aren’t you deceiving your customers? Despite this and other commentary complaining about the same thing, my visit to the dress’s ordering page shows the uncensored dress. Apparently common sense won over.

I am totally amused by this dress. My first thought was, how empowering. Like an O’Keeffe painting on legs. Sure to stir up some conservative wrath at your high school’s prom ticket booth. Then again, if a designer game out with penis-pants as part of a tuxedo… definitely not as amusing.

This reminds me of recent stories of schools restricting high schoolers to wear attire that society assigns their sex: dresses for girls, tuxedos for boys. IndyStar.com reported March 11 that a lesbian who “does not wear dresses because she sees them as expressing a sexual identity that she does not embrace” was denied the right to wear a tuxedo to her prom (the policy has since been changed).

Similarly, clothes that MAY or MAY NOT express an inappropriate image (the word “FCUK” on jackets, and other innuendo in public school and similar settings) are tough to define in order to enforce certain rules. You might be able to argue that the dress does NOT imitate a vagina. Because LightintheBox does not explicitly say that the dress was made to imitate a vagina, would that give more credit to such an argument? What if LightintheBox did specify that the dress was meant to imitate a vagina? Would that matter?

This dress further inflames controversy over minors’ expression of sexual and gender identity in public schools or similar settings and the perceived responsibility of those with authority to limit that expression as it relates to those persons’ age, sex, sexual orientation/identity, location where they are being expressive, and the blurred lines of what is appropriate and what is not.

How do you feel?
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