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term='feminist comedians'/><category term='Shamika Lawrence'/><category term='The Sexual Self'/><category term='Fazeelat Bibi'/><category term='NOVO Foundation'/><category term='Sarah Palin'/><category term='Conscious Consumerism'/><category term='Men and Purses'/><title type='text'>Comments on Phem: Web | Blog | Magazine: Love, Sex and Happily Ever After</title><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.phem.org/feeds/6325896031820307025/comments/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/6325896031820307025/comments/default'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.phem.org/2009/11/love-sex-and-happily-ever-after_09.html'/><author><name>Brook</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/00455137780266585170</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='24' src='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_LNfo5y0PFyA/SdeyXFNECsI/AAAAAAAAAVk/Zu-H03VXx5Y/S220/2365_612067913846_1530482_38512079_7042717_n.jpg'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>5</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>25</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51241230466684203.post-3393638412413771005</id><published>2010-10-17T20:16:08.622-07:00</published><updated>2010-10-17T20:16:08.622-07:00</updated><title type='text'>Very enlightening and beneficial to someone whose ...</title><summary type='text'>Very enlightening and beneficial to someone whose been out of the circuit for a long time.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;- Kris</summary><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/6325896031820307025/comments/default/3393638412413771005'/><link rel='self' 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value='pid-332582135'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51241230466684203.post-4927989411945068244</id><published>2009-11-28T22:24:18.836-08:00</published><updated>2009-11-28T22:24:18.836-08:00</updated><title type='text'>The scripts repeated for us in many formats and re...</title><summary type='text'>The scripts repeated for us in many formats and reinforced by large enough portions of U.S. society create impossible expectations.  But they do more than that.  My experience is that I could not understand love, how to participate in a healthy relationship (or recognize one for that matter).  It also presents people as either romantic or not-romantic.  Friendships are a continuum of affection </summary><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/6325896031820307025/comments/default/4927989411945068244'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/6325896031820307025/comments/default/4927989411945068244'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.phem.org/2009/11/love-sex-and-happily-ever-after_09.html?showComment=1259475858836#c4927989411945068244' title=''/><author><name>Anonymous</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img1.blogblog.com/img/blank.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.phem.org/2009/11/love-sex-and-happily-ever-after_09.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51241230466684203.post-6325896031820307025' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/posts/default/6325896031820307025' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-279420979'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51241230466684203.post-3428174951221504462</id><published>2009-11-09T20:18:29.418-08:00</published><updated>2009-11-09T20:18:29.418-08:00</updated><title type='text'>Laura J. Ray said:
Oh this piece brought tears to ...</title><summary type='text'>Laura J. Ray said:&lt;br /&gt;Oh this piece brought tears to my eyes. Very moving, yet so right down to the point.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Melinda said:&lt;br /&gt;This is probably one of my biggest struggles. I can not just be pleasant to please others. It is a process to be in a relationship!! The happy comes with the work it takes to be in a relationship. Not to mention the self discovery and growth that comes </summary><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/6325896031820307025/comments/default/3428174951221504462'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/6325896031820307025/comments/default/3428174951221504462'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.phem.org/2009/11/love-sex-and-happily-ever-after_09.html?showComment=1257826709418#c3428174951221504462' title=''/><author><name>Anonymous</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img1.blogblog.com/img/blank.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.phem.org/2009/11/love-sex-and-happily-ever-after_09.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51241230466684203.post-6325896031820307025' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/posts/default/6325896031820307025' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-1695437346'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51241230466684203.post-6755591745182970550</id><published>2009-11-09T13:32:09.867-08:00</published><updated>2009-11-09T13:32:09.867-08:00</updated><title type='text'>&amp;quot;Happily ever after&amp;quot; is quite the misnom...</title><summary type='text'>&amp;quot;Happily ever after&amp;quot; is quite the misnomer. A dialogue I had regarding the fairy tale ideology reflected on what happens within the &amp;quot;happily ever after&amp;quot;.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;No one discusses how the Prince has a co-dependent relationship with his mother who rules every aspect in the relationship, or how the Prince/Queen may have Oedipal issues that translates into an unexistent sex </summary><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/6325896031820307025/comments/default/6755591745182970550'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/6325896031820307025/comments/default/6755591745182970550'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.phem.org/2009/11/love-sex-and-happily-ever-after_09.html?showComment=1257802329867#c6755591745182970550' title=''/><author><name>paledamiana</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/07651489925544889145</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_5Jsg1PjWuQc/SeIcDkzD5PI/AAAAAAAAAAM/Osk9UBY0JLc/S220/l_bf3493a8761237eb507cd93d40635480.jpg'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.phem.org/2009/11/love-sex-and-happily-ever-after_09.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51241230466684203.post-6325896031820307025' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/posts/default/6325896031820307025' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-1468244512'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51241230466684203.post-6122645544119126953</id><published>2009-11-09T13:25:07.507-08:00</published><updated>2009-11-09T13:25:07.507-08:00</updated><title type='text'>You know, it&amp;#39;s amazing how much pressure we ar...</title><summary type='text'>You know, it&amp;#39;s amazing how much pressure we are under to have sex when we are younger. I lost my virginity considerably younger than you and was seriously traumatized by it; I literally knew nothing about sex. Literally. And so I didnt have sex again for a long time; I was scared and did not see what all the excitement was about. It wasn&amp;#39;t until I was two years into a serious relationship</summary><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/6325896031820307025/comments/default/6122645544119126953'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/6325896031820307025/comments/default/6122645544119126953'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.phem.org/2009/11/love-sex-and-happily-ever-after_09.html?showComment=1257801907507#c6122645544119126953' title=''/><author><name>Brook Buesking</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/00455137780266585170</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='24' src='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_LNfo5y0PFyA/SdeyXFNECsI/AAAAAAAAAVk/Zu-H03VXx5Y/S220/2365_612067913846_1530482_38512079_7042717_n.jpg'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.phem.org/2009/11/love-sex-and-happily-ever-after_09.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51241230466684203.post-6325896031820307025' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/51241230466684203/posts/default/6325896031820307025' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-1318079665'/></entry></feed>
