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I don't like the fact that it's called "HUGE". I k...

2010-07-29T06:59:55.284-07:00

I don't like the fact that it's called "HUGE". I know that was the name of the book but it's such a powerful word that's almost pejorative. Because from what I saw in the trailer, those girls really aren't HUGE. And why do they have to be at fat camp? Why can't we follow a larger teenager through high school. THAT would cause controversy. I still want to watch

The part about Herbal Essences made me sad :( I lo...

2010-07-22T19:08:44.400-07:00

The part about Herbal Essences made me sad :( I love using their Totally Twisted line on my perm.

eek!

2010-07-22T17:20:26.277-07:00

eek!

Thank you for this. I really needed this reality c...

2010-07-21T18:06:46.614-07:00

Thank you for this. I really needed this reality check that brought me right back to Cape Town. Especially the videos:) love you and all that you do Brook! Monetary donations actually do make a difference to people if you know where they are going to. I'm sure he is so grateful and I know he will be able to thank you in person one day again. When that happens-- i will go with you! :)

WE ARE NOT EQUAL UNTIL EVERYONE IS! this is a good...

2010-06-25T07:07:58.399-07:00

WE ARE NOT EQUAL UNTIL EVERYONE IS! this is a good time to remind everyone about the Gay Pride Event in Chesapeake this Sunday, June 27. See facebook for more details

I love CNN. I know that because of this struggle a...

2010-06-24T13:19:51.851-07:00

I love CNN. I know that because of this struggle and the exposure to follow this young girl is going to be able to do great things in the future and one day the gay population wont be forced to conform to old fashion mind sets. Go Ceara!!

Seriously, from someone who's study human anatomy,...

2010-06-22T20:12:13.837-07:00

Seriously, from someone who's study human anatomy, this cracks me up. The fact that people have been so overfed woman's physical anatomy that we have literally been stripped to our bones is totally insane. Also, those people out there who don't believe in cross-dressing and trans-gender will one day be made a fool of and totally flabergasted if they keep looking at stuff like this. A

I love this. As a person who's not your best frien...

2010-06-22T20:01:31.376-07:00

I love this. As a person who's not your best friend = ) its give me hope that people from rural areas that are raised to believe that racism and sexism are right can change their minds. That the God thats in the sky that I have yet to meet or understand has left a few minds untainted by the bullshit that our parents and their parents were led to believe was the way of life. And as your friend

this is gross. when will it end?

2010-06-22T13:24:31.367-07:00

this is gross. when will it end?

And to what of those who do make it? What success ...

2010-06-17T22:05:02.842-07:00

And to what of those who do make it? What success is gained? I think the hard times make us better people. I think that if everything is handed to you, you become one of the punks that grace MTV and try to entice us with the promise of gold. Their thinly lacquered pages of promised grandure push me away. I do want success but I am leary on what it takes and what will happen to who I am if

this is awesome amy!

2010-06-17T09:34:29.194-07:00

this is awesome amy!

also a good read is Sex on the Margins: Migration...

2010-06-17T08:15:02.110-07:00

also a good read is Sex on the Margins: Migration, Labour Markets and the Rescue Industry by Laura Maria Agustin

http://www.urbanjustice.org/ujc/projects/sex.html ...

2010-06-17T08:12:07.400-07:00

http://www.urbanjustice.org/ujc/projects/sex.html <--this is also a good project that NOVO Foundation suggested. Check it out!

When is it? How much does it cost to participate?

2010-06-15T11:14:58.172-07:00

When is it? How much does it cost to participate?

i worked there for 2 months. When hired, they take...

2010-05-28T13:32:53.411-07:00

i worked there for 2 months. When hired, they take a polaroid pic of you and if you deviate from that image they can fire you. They say that you are hired specifically for your "image" and get an "image magazine" to "help you maintain your look". Yes, the sizes are actually small, ex small, and ex ex small. I wore a small, they wanted me to wear ex small.

That explains why I didn't get a call-back there; ...

2010-05-28T12:31:19.912-07:00

That explains why I didn't get a call-back there; I'm 5'8 and 150. Yeesh.

For more peeks into the life of a Hooter's girl, c...

2010-05-28T12:17:43.430-07:00

For more peeks into the life of a Hooter's girl, check out their grooming standards.

http://www.hooters.com/hootersgirl/Home/Default.aspx

I find the articles downright insulting in several ways.

But hey, I'd never be a Hooter's girl. Too old and too fat. Oh well, I wasn't looking for a career change anyway!

Best,
Kelly

Pretty funny = Roll on the floor hilarious

2010-05-25T16:31:07.286-07:00

Pretty funny = Roll on the floor hilarious

That's what a significant portion of Japanese art ...

2010-05-18T12:44:51.570-07:00

That's what a significant portion of Japanese art looks like. It's not cartoonish for kids; it's cartoonish because it's Japanese. Having read manga and watched anime for much of my life, I can honestly say that the woman in the picture looks more like an adult than most renderings of supposedly adult women--childish features are considered sexy in Japan, so women are often drawn

Hmmm, I don't remember who that was. I will figur...

2010-03-31T14:26:46.694-07:00

Hmmm, I don't remember who that was. I will figure it out. But that is an argument that I have heard a bit. I agree too, oddly though I feel that the main contention for our separation is the thing that has the possibility to be the strongest tool to connect us. I am talking about the internet or every tool in the age of instant global communication. We have to learn to be responsible

Who was it we were listening to that said there is...

2010-03-30T09:14:27.558-07:00

Who was it we were listening to that said there isn't really a strong community anymore and as a result we feel we have no one to be accountable to--this statement is so true. We need a better system for bonding bigger communities -such as in cities- so that people are pulling together instead of pushing away.

I was just thinking, the teen pregnancy issue seem...

2010-02-26T08:47:00.549-08:00

I was just thinking, the teen pregnancy issue seems to ignore 'girls of color.' And I'm wondering why, I know you didn't mean to do it that way but that the number of ads and pictures failed to represent girls of color which is sad because they have the same problem.
Did this issue all of a sudden become a white issue?
No.
It's just that again, girls of color

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2010-02-26T07:31:28.418-08:00

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2010-02-25T22:34:59.590-08:00

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Amy, well said. I recently ran into a guy who I u...

2010-02-22T07:39:10.069-08:00

Amy, well said. I recently ran into a guy who I used to work with long ago, and was reminded of how much I put up with for the sake of keeping my job, not only in my hands, but also comfortable and safe. I have worked in all kinds of restaurants and honestly, the harassment for me is more from employees than customers. However, it's been a while since I tended bar or worked in non-coporate